Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am

We agree with you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. I’ve done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply the person I will be.

Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to you will need to speak to her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july

And in addition, exactly what would you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another really and truly just a coincidence?

Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am

I could realise why you’d believe means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We browse the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW is only able to get a handle on her very own actions, and overlook the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. Their relationship with brand new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies at all. It could you should be yet another connect to the man when it comes to LW, that is wanting to cut psychological ties.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july

Thats an excellent point for sure!

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am

Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies with this specific number of dudes whom once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then it ended up being realised by me personally wasn’t the girls, its the people. Additionally the girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, desired to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….

Katie 17, 2012, 10:04 am july

Yea. Its love, when that occurs enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU WILL BE!!

I do feel harmful to this new GF. She deserves to have a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless dreams intensely about her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW due to the fact man is telling her a bunch of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am

Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the first girlfriend after a long relationship, but thats why many people go into all of them with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to end dropping “But i’ve a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july

Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW knows which he features a GF, he could be simply hunting for a response each time he claims it. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”

Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july

Yea, its like whenever i was in twelfth grade and me personally and my boyfriend would split up almost every other week, in which he would “accidently” text me personally or something like that just therefore we would fight and acquire right back together.

Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm

@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and obtain straight back together”

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am

I’ve said right here a whole lot, if the guy whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I know therefore men that are many utilize that word to full cover up due to their dickish behavior.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am

We don’t know why individuals would phone some body crazy within the place that is first. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact which you place a “crazy” label onto it, makes me think you may well be the one which loves to stir the muck.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am

Additionally, if you should be prepared to phone somebody crazy, wouldn’t which means that you may be kinda crazy also?

Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july

Therefore real! When the “crazy” comes down, Im operating one other means. I do believe it absolutely was stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, buddy.

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july

To be honest, that it’s partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely could be upset about any of it too, and yet she continues to respond to this dudes calls even though he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.

Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july

Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman because your simply likely to cause drama. You must just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also if you nevertheless like their attention, the reality that you understand he’s got a gf is causing you to a poor man in this too.

Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july

That is a great point, you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.

So LW, them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (i love you, eljay) said, someone has to be the adult in this situation if you really do respect their relationship and wish. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.

Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm

Amen bestie – we accept you about talking towards the gf. That knows exactly exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their speaking frequently, but although the relationship is none of the company, the fact the LW as well as the girlfriend that is new met now i believe permits the LW some freedom. If I experienced held it’s place in a situation where a buddy brought somebody around that I experienced found out about and wished to be friends with (I’m likely to assume that the LW wishes that? ) and it went horribly, i would touch base and get, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went badly. She does not fundamentally need certainly to say, “Hey, so that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ for me and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you’re fine with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively, I became underneath the impression you had been ok with your being friends, but i recently noticed I’m perhaps not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july

I wouldn’t communicate with the gf relating to this. If We had been dating someone for 2 months the very last thing I would personally desire is the ex of three years reaching off to me personally. And simply to share with you you respect her relationship? I would personally think you had been bullshitting me personally and playing mind games. Just simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex you don’t wish to hear from him for some time, then keep them alone. Actually they probably won’t work-out them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am

Oh in addition, if we had been the newest gf and my bf and I also went into his ex at a club I would personally additionally need we leave instantly. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everybody else pretends they can be” that is“mature stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay as soon as your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually to be okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:28 am july